Coaching secret & exercise to try - find the magic of your 'why'!

Today I thought I'd share a little secret about my coaching, in the shape of a brief but fun exercise you can try today!


One of the main reasons to hire a coach is of course to keep momentum going. For so many of us, with the best will in the world it's hard when on our own, to keep our focus & energy on track so we can bring about the transformation we would love.


So as a coach, how do I help you kick start your momentum when you feel stuck, unclear or a bit lost during a coaching session?


I would pretty much always start out by asking you the same thing - I want to know your 'what' & your 'why'!

Here's some questions if you'd like to try this right now:
What?
What do you want?
What's your goal?
What are you aiming for?
What would you love to have?


Why?
Why do you want that?
Why does it matter to you?
What difference will it make to you to achieve that?
What will change in your daily life if you achieve that?


If you'd like to feel a little boost of energy & clarity today then I seriously encourage you to take 5 minutes right now to write down your answer to one of the 'what' questions and one of the 'why' questions above (even email it back to me if you're in the mood! I'd love to hear from you - no automation here, it'd go straight to my inbox!)


It's so important to regularly check in with your 'what' & 'why' because:

• It's easy to lose sight of what we want. Life can get so busy and we often spend so much time just coping with whatever comes our way, as a result we end up forgetting what we're even aiming for.

• Sometimes we slog away from week to week, caught up thinking that we're working hard towards our goals, yet if we don't check in regularly with what our goal actually is, how do we know if we're still on track?! I for one have often found myself spending days trying to get some task done...only to realise I've been wasting time on something I didn't actually need or want to do (it's ridiculous that it can even happen but ...somehow I manage it!!). An example would be spending a week trying to create a poster for a live speaking event, only to then remind yourself that your goal includes you never having to do speaking events again! Doh!

• When you connect with your 'why' you reignite your passion - your driving force. It's energising! You might have one single reason why you want what you want, and you might have a list of twenty reasons, just make a note of whatever comes up for you - these are the things that fuel your fire! They matter! Write them on post it notes & put them where you can see them every day! Really get into envisaging the detail of your 'why' & how good it will feel when you achieve your goal!

My last tip on getting a result from this quick & simple exercise is this - once you have reconnected with your 'what' & your 'why', take a moment to sit or lie down somewhere calm & peaceful, in silence for at least 2 minutes (if you can do longer that's even better).
Have in your mind the sense that you're waiting for an answer during this moment of silence. You don't even need to know what the question is - just allow some stillness to see what comes up for you. By doing this you're allowing a connection to your soul's purpose. You've ignited the fire by getting in touch with the reason why you want what you want, now you need to allow your soul to speak to you with whatever it needs to say.


When you do this you're allowing some space for a little magic!


One of the major reasons why 1:1 coaching works is because you pretty much have to answer me - in person - when I ask questions like the above! Being in a real live coaching session means you can't do that thing that happens when you're reading an email & think "that's a good question - I'll answer that later"...and later never comes! Saying your answers out loud to another human who exists to help you achieve your dreams (me...!) can be so empowering & invigorating! You won't really know the extent of that until you've tried it!


If you'd like to know more about what I do, check out my website www.fireflyheartcoaching.com or email me [email protected] - I'd love to hear from you!
With love,

Nikki x